“You are the joy in my life. I am a mess but I will be the joy in yours … When you touch me, you feel through me, through the ugliness beneath my skin, you make me feel, you hold me together, you push my skin back into its proper place. When you see me next, I will be wearing your ring on my left finger. I will say yes. You will hear me.”

American writer, professor, editor, and social commentator

Roxane Gay is an American writer, professor, editor, and social commentator. She is known for essays, fiction, memoir, and public commentary, and for books including Bad Feminist, Ayiti, An Untamed State, Difficult Women, and Hunger. Her work spans criticism and creative writing, with Bad Feminist becoming a New York Times best seller. Across her books, she writes about culture, identity, gender, and the pressures of contemporary life, moving between personal reflection and sharper social critique.