A biography for Hari Nefhasn’t been written yet.
“For me, Instagram had become a place where I could image myself the way I found myself.”
“Ariel is the most boring Disney princess.”
“I identify with anyone who logged online in elementary school and never logged off.”
“Being a woman means that my male privilege seeped out of my body.”
“I was really into emo and scene culture in middle school.”
“I've certainly been in situations where I've been rejected and endangered and had my humanity put in question - just as almost every woman on the planet has.”
“When you're making an independent film, there is no guarantee that anyone is going to see it, ever.”
“I keep a very cold apartment - I tend to crank my AC just about as low as it can go. I sleep with a big, warm comforter, even during the summer, and just burrow underneath it.”
“I majored in drama and theater arts at Columbia and was always in acting studio, but that was a liberal arts degree, not a bachelor of arts degree, so I didn't have a traditional conservatory training. There was a lot of reading and a lot of writing involved, and only about 30 percent of my classes were directly theater-related.”
“Fashion gave me the platform that has made this transition from fashion to Hollywood, from East Coast to West Coast. Fashion gave me the platform that has made this easier than it is for a lot of other people. And I will always count fashion as the industry that was first to welcome me and embrace what I could do.”
“If I ever called myself an activist, I regret it, and I was cornered into it by an industry who couldn't justify me taking up space without saying that I had some kind of radical political agenda because they saw my participation as a radical political thing. Which it was not.”
“I could have hidden in Boston and lived at home for three years, gone through my transition, taken voice lessons to make my voice more feminine, gotten gender reassignment surgery, and spent time to complete my transition, but I didn't want to wait. I wanted to be in the world.”
“I'm fun, ruthless, articulate, impatient, maybe a little cavalier. I'm a woman and a feminist. I'm transgender. I'm an actress, a reluctant writer, occasionally a potato-shaped model.”
“There's something very noble about the bowling shoe. It has very little pretense, and it's kind of naughty. You have to share them with a bunch of other people, which is so kinky in a way that I like. What other shoes would you actively share with other people?”
“I think people get stuck in a cycle with social media sometimes and don't know how to make adjustments that are personal.”
“Sometimes it feels like people can't wrap their head around the notion that an 'androgynous' trans woman with shorter hair could be beautiful.”
“I search my name on Tumblr more than I Google myself, and I Google myself every day.”
“I got the Fire Stick as a gift at the Amazon Emmys after-party in 2015, and because I haven't lived in a house with cable television since I lived with my parents as a child, I've just streamed everything. I can afford cable. I have a television. But I only stream things.”
“I can say with confidence that my trans/transfeminine identity emerges as the most heavily problematized aspect of my lived experience. My transness is not a problem on its own but problematized by a society that reviles it, hates it, fails to understand it - or does not wish to.”
“I'm very conscious and weary of the hype economy and the way people build things up just to tear them down.”