A biography for Hari Nefhasn’t been written yet.
“I feel like so much of mainstream feminism springs from the second wave, which was essentially a discourse spearheaded by white, cisgender, upper middle class women. I feel - especially as I'm trying to negotiate this new female space with the feminism that's available to me - there are a lot of places where I'm disenfranchised.”
“I couldn't remember when I'd stopped willing to be trans and started wanting to be trans. If there were a difference, I'd forgotten it.”
“I think that it should be every woman's choice, depending on how she feels comfortable. I can't think of any objective reason why you should wear makeup unless it makes you feel good.”
“If you're anything other than a white, cisgender, able-bodied dude, people are going to project narratives, imagery, and context onto you that you might not necessarily see for yourself.”
“What we really need to look at is gender fluidity and the idea that gender can be customised however you want.”
“I travel a lot, so I don't have a morning routine because where I wake up tends to be inconsistent. But I'm always really, really hungry when I wake up, so breakfast is important.”
“I don't feel comfortable with the idea that my only gateway into doing what I love to do is auditioning for other people to give me the green light and say that I'm allowed to do it, or that I'm allowed to play this role, or that I'm allowed to be in this movie. I would feel much more comfortable making those opportunities for myself.”
“Being a woman is an option, being trans is an option, and they're options that appeal to me. We need to listen to people - not labels, not semantics.”
“I'm teaching myself how to screenplay write.”
“There have been moments where I've had to question the way I've used social media and change it. Not because anything was wrong or right but because my needs had changed, and my perspective had changed.”
“When I saw that Laverne Cox was on the cover of 'Time' magazine, I totally lost it. It was a coup for the girls!”
“I'm really into the way sound works in film, and I did a little bit of sound design for theater in college.”
“Visibility is not, in itself, always a good thing, but when it is in the hands of those who need positive visibility, it can be.”
“Dysphoria will always be a painful place.”
“Trans-dating is hardcore, and it's really scary. And that's coming from me, someone who couldn't be dating in a more open-minded Manhattan pool of artsy boys and creative folk. Not saying it all sucks. I'm just saying it's not easy.”
“I admire actresses who are willing to jettison the easy route toward exposure and commercial success as an actor in favor or a slow burn, choosing projects carefully, and building an artistic practice over time that feels specific to who they are as artists.”
“I want to start the trans mafia one day.”
“People feel emboldened to say things on the Internet they wouldn't in person.”
“I identify with Sad Girls.”
“I live in a little studio apartment, so I try to keep the space super clean at all times.”