“Never allow yourself to become a choice in any relationship. The moment you do is when you have reduced your loved one's affections to a daily biological question: Should I take a dump here or wait till I get home?”

Shannon L. Alder is a contemporary American writer and educator. She is known for her work on mindfulness and emotional resilience, particularly in educational settings, blending practical advice with accessible, reflective language. Her insights often bridge psychology and everyday experience.