“If two people truly have feelings for one another then they don’t have an affair. They get a divorce and they sort out their feelings. You are accountable for the people you hold hostage in a marriage when your mind and heart refuse to fully commit to them.”

Shannon L. Alder is a contemporary American writer and educator. She is known for her work on mindfulness and emotional resilience, particularly in educational settings, blending practical advice with accessible, reflective language. Her insights often bridge psychology and everyday experience.