“The desirable virgin is sexy but not sexual. She's young, white, and skinny. She's a cheerleader, a babysitter; she's accessible and eager to please (remember those ethics of passivity!). She's never a woman of color. SHe's never a low-income girl or a fat girl. She's never disabled. "Virgin" is a designation for those who meet a certain standard of what women, especially young women, are supposed to look like. As for how these young women are supposed to act? A blank slate is best.”

American feminist writer

Jessica Valenti is an American feminist writer. She co-founded the blog Feministing and wrote for it from 2004 to 2011. She has 91 quotes on the site. Valenti is the author of six books, including Full Frontal Feminism, The Purity Myth, Why Have Kids?, and Sex Object: A Memoir. She has also co-edited Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power, A World Without Rape, and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World. From 2014 to 2018, she was a columnist for The Guardian, and she now runs the Abortion, Every Day newsletter. Michelle Goldberg described her as “one of the most successful and visible feminists of her generation.”