Vironika Tugaleva

“Compassion and communication are both incredibly important in relationships, but most of us use these at the wrong time. If we communicate, it's only in times of conflict, allowing repressed emotions and unsaid worries form into their worst phrasings. If we show compassion, it's only in good times, when we're feeling good about one another and don't feel triggered or attacked. What if we changed our approach? What if we showed compassion in conflict—taking the time to listen, understand, help each other release pent-up emotions? And what if we communicated in good times—taking the time to talk about patterns we fall into, triggers we both have, and how we can work together to break our cycles? Then, we would stop helplessly dancing the same old tango of mutual misunderstanding. Then, we could work on giving one another room to feel, to love, and to grow.”

“What if each time you experienced an emotion, you acknowledged it, accepted it, and became curious about its message for you (instead of trying to make it go away or make it last longer)? Imagine how this could change your life. Imagine how heard, loved, and honoured you would feel if you really listened to yourself.”

“In our thoughts, we hold the key to our feelings. In our minds, we hold the key to love.”

“Fly blindly, trust is full of magic. Let your wild voice guide the way.”

“Kindness that turns to bitterness when it is not appreciated was never kindness at all.”

“Learning to love yourself is like learning to walk—essential, life-changing, and the only way to stand tall.”

“The less approval I get, the more chances I have to develop a relationship with my inner sense of approval. Thankless environments are actually useful for this. They help me discover my own thankfulness and my own self-appreciation.”

“Our work is not to become unique. We are unique. Our work is to unleash our sense of adventure and to allow the inner whisper that says “come hither” to be reason enough to go.”

“When you slip up and let yourself back into old, toxic patterns of thinking, forgive yourself before you try to fix yourself.”

“Your pain is trying to tell you something. It is not an accident, a curse, or an inconvenience. Pain is a form of self-communication.”

“A healer is someone who seeks to be the light that she wishes she had in her darkest moments.”

“Whatever you do, it will be a path. Life does not work like a light switch - on/off, fat/skinny, miserable/happy, crazy/sane. All things take time, patience, and practice. Anyone who tells you different is profiting off your fearful ignorance of the truth.”

“The closer you come to your authentic self, the simpler everything becomes. Listen to your intuition. It will tell you who you are.”

“Only love that continues to flow in the face of anger, blame, and indifference can be called love. All else is simply a transaction.”

“Fear is just a misunderstanding of your immortality.”

“Apathy is, too often, a result of overexposure to stressful, highly emotional situations. To rekindle empathy, sometimes we need some space. It's okay to walk away so that you can feel love for someone again. Sometimes for a moment. Sometimes forever.”

“When we suffer in silence, we think that we are alone, different, separate. When we share our stories of suffering, we find that we are the same.”

“Our inner wisdom is persistent, but quiet. It will always whisper, but it will never stop knocking at your door.”

“Sometimes "No" is the kindest word.”

“Peace is not the absence of pain, but the welcoming of pain as a teacher.”