Tracy McMillan

“People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being.”

“Sometime between when the Summer of Love ended and the Summer of Sam began, America became a nation of cynics about love.”

“Without really trying to, I've become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships - someone who's had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.”

“If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you.”

“A sure-fire way to know you're crazy is if more than one person has told you you'd be great on a reality show - and you agree with them.”

“Rather than diminishing the idea of 'truly needing' a relationship - and trying to deny it, shame it, or talk ourselves out of it - why not just celebrate it? It's exactly what the world needs.”

“Is our desire for partnership just an evolutionary remainder, a Togetherness Delusion, where millions of women only think they need a relationship to be truly happy? Maybe. But you know what? That's fine with me.”

“All of us, consciously or unconsciously, set out to have the best possible love life. Valentine's Day simply shines a light on the degree to which that didn't - or hasn't yet - materialized.”

“Relationships are like the world's most intense yoga! It's a daily practice.”

“Women blame men for their own singlehood.”

“If I had an office job, I'd probably be doing the exact same thing I'm doing on television: hanging out by the water cooler and talking to co-workers about their relationships.”

“I think every woman has this point in her life where she's like, 'I have a great job, great outfits and great friends, but something's missing.'”

“I talk to women for a living. It's pretty much what I do with my day.”

“I feel that as long as you're honest, you have the opportunity to grow. It's when you shut down, go into denial, and try to start hiding things from yourself and others, that's when you lock in certain behaviors and attitudes that keep you stuck.”

“We have this false idea in our culture that if you haven't made it by 30, then you're never going to do anything interesting. My 40s have been the most incredible time of my life.”

“I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married.”

“The thing is, relationships never work out... until they do. You learn a lot from relationships that don't work out.”

“I think of masculine and feminine energy like two sides to a battery. There's a plus side and a minus side, and in order to make something turn on, you need to have opposites touching. It's the same in relationships.”

“Being in a relationship is a hard, painful slog at least once a week, maybe more often - especially if you have a lot of defenses to let down, or if your parents didn't know how to love you very well.”

“Because I was a television writer for many years, I write very conversationally. I put things straight, and with a lot of humor.”